BasicSky Four-Layer Relationship

Relationship with oneself

In interpersonal relationships, there is no more important than the relationship with oneself. This is the foundation of all relationships with people. Personal self-confidence and courage are important aspects of understanding yourself.

Relationship with family

Anyone has a family, at least with parents, even if it has become history. Many people have siblings and offspring. Have a good relationship with them is the “foundation” of all other relationships. If you are already a parent and want to improve the relationship at this level, you can start with learning how to teach your children.

Relationship with others

This is the most common experience of interpersonal relationships. You may have many friends from different age groups, but a few of them can become “close” friends. How to improve friendship, reduce misunderstanding, and strengthen bonds can all be improved from learning.

Relationship with work

Work accounts for about half of life, and any form of work is inextricably linked to people, from colleagues to partners, from customers to strangers, all of which are long-term or short-term relationships and cooperation. How to improve this sector of relationship has become an important key to the success of overall work.

Relationship with the Creator

The innermost is not a layer, it is the Pillar. This is the Pillar of life and everything of your life including but not limiting to the relationship. With a good and clear relationship with your creator, you rest assure that no one and nothing else can shake the core of your life.

Conceptual Origin

In short, this model is created based on the observation of human activities in general. Regardless of culture, education level, gender, and age, this “One-Pillar and Four-layer” model resembles that all values and interactivities are coming from the core of our human hearts which, are created by the Creator with love.

Detail Explanations

Four layers of distribution

The stratification of relationships is the classification of the understanding of reality, and the stratification is the distinction between the distant and the close. Although the pro is not necessarily close, the sparseness is not necessarily far, but the stratification also sets the basic relationship between the human relationship and the distance to show the connection state of the relationship.

The fourth layer begins with the core of the self, and the relationship between the outermost layer and the work is the most relevant level of interest in general. When the middle layer and the layer are not necessarily obvious, especially the outer layer, the blurring of the field is like a friend relationship, and it is also easy to be a partner in the work, and vice versa.

The importance of improving relationship

The improvement of the relationship between the various layers can improve the benefits, levels, and depths of all aspects of the relationship. Improvements from the inside out are long-lasting and gradual to support the use of knowledge at the knowledge level. Therefore, even if there is no significant leap in knowledge and skills, the improvement in mentality due to changes in relationships can be very different at the implementation level. Therefore, when people improve their relationship with themselves at the deepest level, the change of mentality will affect each layer’s outward influence until it affects the most superficial working layer. This is also the core concept of the four-layer relationship. Because we don’t want the courses here to be the short-lived and one-sided improvement of people’s skills but to expect a long-lasting and far-reaching renewal.

Layer 4 (towards work)

Layer 3 (towards others)

From the beginning of school, we began to contact many different people. Those “others” are the most exposed to us at this level, and they are the main way for us to learn to communicate. In the years of separation and the separation of different people, not many can last for a long time, but at the same time can maintain the relationship.

This level of relationship relies heavily on the skills and experience of the first and second levels of relationship. The most important thing is to use the heart, that is, to establish relationships through sincerity and love. Falseness will only bring one-sided friendship. When this level of interpersonal relationships begins to mature, it can provide greater support for the fourth layer. On the contrary, without the interpersonal relationship between health and “others”, the fourth level of work will face many obstacles and difficulties.

Layer 2 (towards family)

Family members should be the closest personal relationship circle and a breeding ground for the establishment of personal basic values. Family relationships are the most important part of a lifetime for many people. Because of its importance, it needs to be paid more attention. How to strengthen the relationship at this level, both parents, brothers and sisters, wife, husband, and children, need to have different skills and attitudes. The love for loved ones is self-evident, and the care, care, and tolerance that are needed are not simple.

The relationship between family members is relatively more tolerant because many relationships are bloody and can never be changed. But we should not consume this factual relationship that seems to never change, because it is not difficult to see that there are many anti-target families in the society, whether it is divorce or domestic violence, which is a family problem that we are used to today. So our curriculum will use a lot of resources to explore root causes and provide directions for improvement.

Layer 1 (towards oneself)

The first person a baby knows is himself, which is true for anyone with normal cognitive ability. This is not only the most important and most important relationship of the average person but also the relationship that people most often do not pay attention to and ignore.

The improvement of the relationship with oneself here is not something that is done in substance or affection. On the contrary, at that time, people lived the most selfish and destroyed the deepest relationship with themselves. why? Because the kind of love for oneself is superficial and superficial, the effect of any relationship established with this love is impossible to outweigh the roots of this low-level love. So why do people like this? Because many people’s grassroots values are built from a very short time, they are easy to satisfy in this kind of quick love, so that they are expressed in a superficial way in their relationship with themselves for a long time. What is said here does not mean that any self-sufficiency that satisfies the needs of one’s own body and mind is the wrong self-love message expressed when people are easy to make things far beyond their own needs.

So what is the real way to love yourself and build a relationship with yourself? To explain this love, we first need to understand what is really good for ourselves, which is directly linked to our basic values. We believe that “good” is like any relationship. It is responsible for itself and the other party. Since both sides are themselves, keeping their own hearts with good virtues, and being free from pollution becomes a basic responsibility for themselves. It is also the original driving force for improving other levels of relations.

Pillar 0 (towards the Creator)

Where do you come from? When you first have your cognition of “self”, the cognition of “You” must also coexist. So the esteem of “self” grows from the respect of “You”. With a blurred understanding of You – The Creator of the self, the esteem of the self would not be well-grounded and secured.